Hey there folks, hope you’re all well. Just a quick check-in today to apologise for my recent absence. I had intended to upload a number of blog posts over the past fortnight, but as often happens, life has taken over of late.
But fear not readers (of which there are thousands, I’m sure). I have a list of topics ready to enthrall you with over the coming months. I can sense your overwhelming excitement already!
On the off there is someone out there reading this, dare I ask if there’s anything inparticular you’d like me to discuss here on my blog? I’m open to all suggestions.
9/11/2016 a day many would rather forget. 11/11/1918 a day we must never forget.
Today is 11th November 2016, Armistice Day. 98 years since the brave soldiers of the Great War lay down their arms for the last time along the western front. Almost a century past but now and always we will remember and give thanks for their selflessness, heroism and sacrifice.
On the 11th November 1918 the guns fell silent and finally four long years of fighting came to an end. The Armistice of Compiègne led to six more months of negotiations which resulted in the Treaty of Versailles, effectively concluding the First World War. Sadly, conflict continues to rage on around the globe.
Today we should all take time to commemorate servicemen and women past and present. It is our moral duty to show appreciation for all who have fought for our protection, for peace, stability and liberty. Yet this week we have entered a period of unprecedented political turmoil; a time of uncertainty, instability and division.
Of course I’m (begrudgingly) referring to the newly elected Donald Trump. I have debated whether or not to acknowledge his recent victory on my blog since it is such a divisive issue. However, being both female and disabled myself, I feel compelled to comment since he has caused offence to all minority groups throughout his campaign. On a personal note, I find it shocking and unnerving that a bigoted, misogynistic, ableist, racist, xenophobic, ignorant narcissist can acquire such popularity and power.
Although it’s true that Hillary Clinton won the popular vote, Trump is headed to the Whitehouse in January due to the arguably flawed Electoral College system. The fact is Trump achieved marginal wins in several large states meaning that, like it or not, he will be the 45th President of the United States of America. We must now accept and respect the result and come together in an organised and peaceful manner in order to move forward with positive intentions.
Violence and disorder has already broken out in America following the news of Trump’s success. People are wreaking havoc, causing damage and fighting each other in angry desperation. The widespread fear and distress is understandable but nothing positive can be achieved from hostility.
Even in times of war, humanity will prevail and divisions can be broken down. The Christmas truce of 1914 demonstrates how opposing forces put aside their differences, if only temporarily.
On Christmas Eve a ceasefire along the western front saw British and German troops greet each other in no-man’s land to exchange pleasantries, take photos, play football and bury their dead before returning to their trenches.
So on this, Armistice Day, look to the past, learn from the past, and move forward with love, positivity, unity and the best intentions. A decision has been made, Trump will be the President. We can’t and shouldn’t fight this decision. We need to offer support, goodwill and compassion to all. One day at a time.
All my life I’ve required care, whether it be from family members, friends or paid employees. For over a decade now I have been hiring my own personal assistants to help me with an array of tasks, including personal care. I have always chosen to recruit my own staff rather than use agency workers. This has given me much more flexibility in terms of when, how and for the duration of time I use my PAs. It also means that I know exactly who will be providing my care, which is not always the case when going down the agency route. However, with this comes the added responsibility of being an employer, which in itself can be rather daunting and stressful.
I’m in the fortunate position of having been gifted the best family I could ever hope for. I do appreciate though, that not everyone has the invaluable support of relatives to rely on. For these individuals their only option is to pay others, often strangers, to assist with their needs. Like me they might advertise, interview and hire independently, paying for their care with council funded Direct Payments (available in England, Scotland and Wales). Alternatively they may decide to use an agency. For others though, in times of desperation, they have no choice but to leave their residence and spend time in respite care. I know of cases where young people in their 20s have been placed in nursing homes for the elderly, where staff have no knowledge or experience of their condition and specialist needs. Personally I can’t imagine such an experience and count myself lucky that I’ve never had to resort to this.
Over the years I have had several carers or personal assistants, whichever label you prefer. For the most part, I have found them through word of mouth and friends of friends. Several months back my longest serving employee had to leave for personal reasons. It came as somewhat of a shock but could not be helped. She had worked for me for eight years and had seen me at my worst and most vulnerable. She is a good friend close to my age, whom I trusted and relied on, and so the news of her resignation was somewhat distressing. Thankfully she was good enough to stay until her position had been filled, which she was under no obligation to do. Nevertheless, I was abruptly faced with the immediate and unavoidable task of advertising for her replacement.
I was under no illusion that finding someone who could and would meet my needs was going to be a simple venture. It certainly was not. I’ve been casually told by those who carry out my annual needs assessment to simply advertise and hire as and when needed. As if I’ll be flooded by pools of applicants to choose from. Then again, I guess these social workers have never had to search for people willing to drag them from their pit every morning and get them ready for the day ahead. Trust me it’s no easy undertaking when job seekers are sadly too often put off to discover that personal care does in fact mean personal care.
I placed ad’s everywhere I could think of; online and locally. After several weeks of limited interest, I arranged interviews with each candidate in the hope that at least one would be suitable. Most were let downs, failing to turn up without notice or changing their mind after showing initial enthusiasm. My expectations were raised only to be shattered. I was surprised by the casual disregard and lack of consideration from some of the applicants. I spent whole days at home waiting for interviewees to arrive, as if I have nothing better to do. Is it really that difficult to send a text message or make a quick call to say you cannot attend for whatever reason?
Time was ongoing and I was increasingly aware that I would have to find someone, anyone as soon as possible. I live rurally in a town populated by less than 10,000 and so inevitably I wasn’t getting as much interest as I might had I lived in a city. This was an incredibly tense and stressful time for me. Although my carer had said she would remain with me until a replacement could be found, I knew it was too much to expect her to stay as long as it was taking. I couldn’t be without the care I needed to live my life, to simply exist. Yet at the same time I couldn’t find anyone to provide this care. I was facing an almost impossible challenge.
In the end it was once again through friends of friends and frankly sheer luck that I found someone to take on the essential role. I won’t lie, it’s been a difficult transition and my daily routine has had to adapt. But several months on things seem to be coming together and all the initial doubts and struggles have been ironed out. I do still worry about the future prospect of having to go through the whole hiring process once again. It’s an unenviable task but one that is an essential and unavoidable part of life for those of us with a disability.
I realise it’s difficult for those applying for positions as PAs to empathise with our unusual and complex situation. If you’ve never needed care yourself it’s understandably difficult to grasp the necessity and importance of the role of caregiver. For this reason I jumped (well, not literally jumped obviously) at the chance to write an open letter to PAs for Muscular Dystrophy Trailblazers. If you’re interested to read the edited version of my letter, click here.
Well it’s upon us again; flu season is here. Every year my parents, brothers, carers and I have the Influenza shot which is free of charge here in the UK, courtesy of the NHS.
For as long as I can remember I’ve had the flu jab to protect myself through the harsh winter months. It’s important that not only I am vaccinated but that those closest to me are too. My immune system is much weaker than average and my condition makes it considerably more difficult to overcome respiratory infections. The common cold will hit me hard and can rapidly develop and deteriorate. It’s therefore very important that I am not unnecessarily exposed to the flu virus.
As I have aged, my declining respiratory function has become the most concerning symptom of my disability. Ullrich congenital muscular dystrophy causes muscle degeneration and scoliosis. So not only are my lungs squashed and unable to expand as they should, the muscles that make them force air in and out are slowly wasting away.
Over the years I have had to fight recurrent chest infections, several bouts of pneumonia, pleurisy and a large pneumothorax requiring a chest drain. Many long, drawn-out days have been spent in hospital trying to overcome serious complications that resulted from a simple, everyday virus.
For this reason, I implore and encourage you to go and get the flu shot. It takes no time at all and I promise you it’s completely painless. There are fables floating around that will attempt to make you believe the flu jab can give you the flu. This is not the case at all. Yes, the vaccine contains a small dose of the inactive virus which triggers antibodies, which within two weeks will guard you if and when you’re exposed.
Like all viruses, Influenza strains change annually which is why it is essential to ensure you are vaccinated every year. I visited my local pharmacy, without appointment, a few weeks ago to get mine. If you haven’t already, don’t delay, go and get yours NOW!
For more information on the Influenza vaccine visit the NHS web page here.